Why You Should Never Make New Year's Resolutions
It is that time of year! A time to reflect and time to plan for changes in our lives in 2020. For most of us, that means taking part in the annual tradition of making a New Year's Resolution. But did you know making a New Year's Resolution is actually a really bad idea? According to U.S. News & World Report, the failure rate for New Year's resolutions is said to be about 80 percent, and most lose their resolve by mid-February. (Source: Inc) That's pretty discouraging isn't?
New Year's Resolutions have an inherent problem. They are designed to be overwhelming and are expected to happen fast, which means they can never be achieved. This is why you should never make a New Year's Resolution. When we put a lot of stress on ourselves to make big changes in our lives very quickly, it results in big disappointments and unhealthy feelings.
Instead, creating goals that can be clearly defined and broken up into smaller actions is how we can be very successful in achieving substantial change in our lives.
Here is how to design a goal you can achieve:
1) DEFINE YOUR END-STATE
The end-state should be how you want to feel after you achieve your goal. For example, if you have been avoiding social events and family gatherings because you are either running to the bathroom all the time or so bloated you are uncomfortable, your end-state might be: To attend social events and family gatherings without being tied to the bathroom.
This end-state has a very clear goal of stopping the suffering that occurs when you have bad digestive health. Plus, the end-state has a clear role in your life because it identifies that you want to spend time with people you care for and love. You just haven't been able to because of your physical limitations. The goal feels attainable because it has a dose of reality. You can envision what it will be like if you achieve your goal.
If you created an unrealistic end-state, it would be hard for you to believe that you can achieve the goal. An example of an unrealistic end-state would be: To never experience the horrible symptoms of an unhealthy gut in my life. This is unrealistic because our bodies change over time. What can work today, may work for the next 5, 7 or even 10 years. But eventually our body will change meaning our routine has to be modified to continue to experience the end-state we want.
2) CREATE CLEAR ACTION STEPS
When you are suffering from a digestive health issue, one way to resolve it is to understand what is actually the cause of your symptoms. This may mean seeking out a Gastroenterologist or a Certified Holistic Nutritionist, depending on your lifestyle and health philosophy. An list of steps may look like this:
Find a Certified Holistic Nutritionist that specializes in Gut Health
Call to make an appointment
Discuss what they do and how they can help me
Determine if it is a fit for me
Fill out the intake forms as a new client
Start working on resolving gut health
3) ADD DUE DATES
Once the action steps are written, adding due dates is important. By adding dates for completion, you are making a commitment to yourself of when you will achieve each step. Not only does this give you a more positive experience for getting the action items completed but you can see progress towards achieving your goal.
One word of caution, putting in very aggressive dates will cause failure, just like a New Year's Resolution. If the dates to complete the steps are aggressive, it creates undo stress on you to achieve a goal very quickly. The saying is true: slow and steady wins the race. For anyone to make meaningful change in their life, it takes time.
We can't expect to resolve our health overnight. It takes time. Every physical body is different. In our example of working to restore gut health, one person may be able to get great results in 30 days. Another person may have to wait for 6 months. It all depends on our lifestyle and how closely we follow the steps needed to heal.
4) TAKE ACTION
Now that the steps are defined and timing is assigned to the steps, get started taking action. Don't get discouraged if the due date for the action you take has to be changed. For the first action, find a Certified Holistic Nutritionist who specializes in gut health, it may take some time to find a person you are comfortable working with.
Most Certified Holistic Nutritionists will offer a free consultation to discuss how you are feeling and what your goals are. Don't be afraid to ask them questions. You'll want to make sure that you are comfortable with their method. Plus, you'll want to know what to expect when working with him or her. You may be able to find someone you really like right away - which is great! But if your goal is to find a Certified Holistic Nutritionist in 30 days and it doesn't happen, just keep working on it. Eventually, you will find one you mesh with.
As you are thinking about your goals for 2020, I hope the above 4 steps help you design a goal you can achieve and helps you not make a New Year's Resolution. Especially, if you are suffering from an unhealthy gut. If it did, leave me a comment in the box below about the end-state you want to achieve in 2020.
If better digestive health is your 2020 end-state, I am a Certified Holistic Nutritionist teaching others how to overcome the embarrassing symptoms of an unhealthy gut so they can stop suffering and get back to living.
How do you know if your digestive health needs some support? If you are bloated, gassy, tired, moody, have diarrhea, constipation, brain fog and/or abdominal pain, your gut is unhealthy. I can help you with our Simply Great Gut Health plan. It's a simple 5 step plan that is customized to your lifestyle.
It’s very simple. No jumping through hoops and NO PRESSURE.
If we determine it’s not a fit, we’ll go our separate ways for now.
If it is a fit, we can take the next step and get you started on the path to healing your gut.
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